Imagine Creating Magical Love For Yourself!
                                               
Catherine
Master Love Attraction Coach
You can't get a happily-ever after if you don't have a happily-along-the-way in your story line!
Change Your Words.  Change Your Life.

Snow White?  Or maybe Rapunzel. Could Scarlett O'Hara be your style?  Take the http://SaboteurSurvey.com and find out right now! 

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Imagine Creating Magical Love For Yourself!
                                               
Catherine
Master Love Attraction Coach
You can't get a happily-ever after if you don't have a happily-along-the-way in your story line!
Change Your Words.  Change Your Life.

Snow White?  Or maybe Rapunzel. Could Scarlett O'Hara be your style?  Take the http://SaboteurSurvey.com and find out right now! 

I hear a distinct call out there protesting Valentine's Day.  I know it is not because there are a bunch of whiners and complainers out there. 

• You gag at a kiss belongs to Kaye Jewelry commercials.

• You hate the greeting card companies for conspiring with the florists to feed the egos of the sappy girls who don't even know how to appreciate the men they have.

• You remember the boyfriend who cheated and betrayed you and make snarky comments about his new girl.

• You rent a sappy romance and watch it with a box of kleenex, a pound of chocolate and a bottle of red wine and have a pity party.

• You say you don't care this year because you need to lose 10 pounds anyway cuz who would want to be with you now anyway.
  

• You think what year it is and you wonder..."Is it too late for me?" and "Why is it fair that girl gets to have her man?" or "Can I still have a family?"

Same Registration Link For Both Calls.  Here is your registration Link:   Valentine's Day 911

Would you like to use EFT to attract YOUR soul mate?  Now is the perfect chance to experience the magic…for less than a dinner and a movie!  For only $47 you can listen in and tap along with me monthly in group coaching calls.  Members also have access to my text classroom where I hang out weekly answering questions and leading text tapping.  Want to check it out?  SoulMateSuccessCircle

                                                

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Because it has become so popular, this year Stephanie has enlisted the services of Carolyn Hansen, renowned fitness professional, and Self Exteem Expert, Dr. Joe Rubino.

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"I never cry."  The young woman sitting across from me was clearly uncomfortable.  Sharing the story of her dad's recent death, she struggled to hold herself together. 

"Why do you think you block your tears?" I asked. 

"I hate being weak," she responded quickly and a bit defensively.  "I have been on my own since I was a kid and there is no time for falling apart."  Instantly back in control, she changed the subject as the waiter brought our coffee.

Did you know that women cry an average of 5.3 times a month?  For years I didn't cry for months at a time.  I, like the young woman from above, was actually proud of the fact that I didn't cry.  Years of anger, frustrated dreams and broken relationships had sealed my tears within.  When I felt the familiar lump in my throat, I never allowed the tears that were calling to be shed to flow.  I was too strong for that.

Little did I know that men actually do cry....only 1.4 times a month, but that tears flow for them too.  Somehow I had decided that crying was something I could do without.  Hmmm.  Amazing how you can believe something that is so untrue.  Do you believe that crying is weak?  Does crying make you uncomfortable?  Do you have a good cry at least once a month?

If not, you are missing out on an important "Love Potion" that your own amazing body is designed to provide.

Abraham Hicks teaches that the ultimate goal for your mindset is "Well-Being."  They have been teaching this simple truth for years.  Now I LOVE Abraham, as you know, and I also teach the positivity message.  Well today I have news for you. 

TEARS ARE NOT NEGATIVE!

What? Isn't sadness a low vibrating emotion?  Aren't you supposed to pivot and change your mindset ASAP so you can be in high vibrating well being?  Yes and no....

Crying improves your well-being. It releases stress hormones from the body and increases the level of the body’s natural pain-killers endorphins. According to William Frey, former Research Director of the St. Paul-Ramsey Dry Eye and Tear Research Center, emotional tears contain: Leucine-enkephalin, a mood-elevating endorphin, ACTH, a hormone that is a reliable indicator of stress and Prolactin, the hormone that regulates milk production in mammals. (Thanks Dr. Brit Brogaard http://LovesickLove.com)

What does all this science talk prove?  It shows that crying your eyes out will actually usher you into a feeling of well-being.  And well-being is the state of Love.  Let me repeat that.  Well-Being equals Love.  That means that your very own tears, that you can choose to release, are a Self Love Potion. 

You may be conditioned to believe that the only way to feel Love is from another person's attention.  Can't blame you there...look at what TV and movies have taught about Love.  But the fact is, feeling loved is an inside job.  And there is no stronger attraction than well-being.  A woman in that state is irresistible.

The biggest secret that I teach my clients is that they can feel loved completely before a man shows up.  How?  It is that very feeling of well-being that guarantees it.  So if you are one who routinely ignores the lump in your throat and doesn't cry more than once a year or so, here are some thoughts for the day:

5 Keys to Finding and Using Your Magical Love Potion

1.  Crying is not, I repeat, not a sign of weakness.  Whatever made you choose to believe this complete untruth, it is time to break it.  You need the Love Potion of tears.  You will never get your man without them.  I know that is strong, but you guys know I am the kind of coach that holds your feet to the fire.  If you want to be irresistible, you must change this belief.

2.  The experience of 'broken-heartedness' is not fatal.  It is natural and good to feel your broken heart.  The trick is not to dwell there.  Allow the feelings to flow.  Write a letter to the person who is bringing that feeling up in you.  The young woman in the above story could write to her dad, even though he is gone.  I like to write fast and furious, letting my emotions flow on to the paper.  I then burn the pages. There is something deep in the human heart that feels comfort in rituals.  Share your feelings with the Divine and then let them go.  What you are experiencing is real and if you hide from your broken-heartedness, the lump in your throat won't let you forget.

3.  If you wallow in the emotions as the tears are flowing, you are not going to attract negativity.  You need your tears.  You also need to wallow in self pity now and then.  It is just a rest stop along your way to manifesting the positivity you crave.  A good cry is like a thunderstorm.  Just like you hear thunder in the distance as a storm approaches, your body will start to feel a cry coming on.  Your throat gets tight, eyes tingle, nose starts to stop up.  Then the storm comes and it feels violent at times as your body convulses in weeping.  But weeping never lasts forever.  I used to think that if I started to cry, I would never stop.  Another absolutely wrong but real belief I lived with.  After a thunderstorm, the air is clear and clean.  Just like your sense of well-being....clear and clean.  And you know the power clarity brings to the Law of Attraction, right?

4.  If tears are not easy for you, you can trigger them.  There is also a difference in how men and women cry. Men cry quietly and neatly, mostly in private and typically only when the losses are great. Women more often cry in public and they don’t always cry neatly.  It may be easier for you to cry in private.  That is fine.  I have a colleague who rents a sad movie when she needs a good cry.  She gets a box of kleenex, cuddles under a blanket and has a full blown crying jag for the sake of the people in the movie.  Some good ones are:  Finding Neverland, Forever Young, Terms of Endearment, Schindler's List or my all time fav...Hoosiers.

5.  This Love Potion is really magic and you need it to manifest the love of your life.  If you are not crying regularly, you are setting yourself up for trouble.  When you do open your heart to your new love, the backlog of disappointment and hurt is going to come out.  It is going to look like it is His Fault.  You can see where I am going here.  Make a plan to cry your little heart out once a month.  A good solid boohoo will lift you into a new appreciation and experience of well-being.  I promise.

Oh, by the way, how did this natural and powerful Love Potion change me?  After years of not enough tears being shed, I ended up in a health crisis that nearly did me in.  Three years ago, laying in bed and healing from a serious illness, I cried and cried and cried.  I found a pocket of resentment I didn't know I had.  Being Snow White and dedicated to being seen as cheerful and positive, I had never allowed myself to see the resentment hiding behind my "strength."

Now that I know the science behind tears, the beautiful, gentle and natural Love Potion given to us by the Divine, I have new respect for the power of those positive brain stimulated body chemicals.  I cry now, whenever the urge strikes.  I am not thrilled when I have what Oprah calls, the "ugly cry".  It always happens when I don't wear water proof mascara.  But I never have that huge awful lump in my throat anymore and that feels amazing. 

                                     

When it comes to self-sabotage, every unmarried woman has a style that "works" for her.  (When you looked in the mirror this morning, did a single girl look back at you?)  From frivolous deal breakers to being consumed by your career, are you putting your love life at the end of your list?  If you are not careful, years can slip by and leave you without a partner.  Is it too late?  NO! 

Once you know what your Saboteur style is, you can make an action plan and change your fate.  There is no shortage of Love.  And, there are more than enough single guys out there searching for their mate.  Men don't do very well single.  They crave the companionship, intimacy and connection they don't get with their male buddies.

If you are aching to find love but terrified of being hurt or disappointed, you may resonate with the Rapunzel style of sabotage.  Take a peek and see what you think:

Rapunzel                                          

• Natural beauty but blind to it.  Doesn’t see herself the way others see her.

• Survived deep emotional hurts and betrayals.

• In a dead end loop driven by her need to feel in control and safe yet wanting to belong to someone forever.

• Holds herself back emotionally so she can bail if she needs to.

• Can be several years since her last significant relationship.

• Sensitive to emotion, she is easily overwhelmed in high emotion moments.

• Is inspired by quiet and inspired solitude.

• Appreciates a simple lifestyle, could be drawn to a Zen like atmosphere.

• Can be counted on.

• Perfectionistic and demanding…..of HERSELF.

• Over-compromises and stays in jobs and relationships well past their expiration point.

• Deeply values fairness and has a sharp eye for injustice but….this can be a double edged sword.

• Rapunzel can be wasting a lot of energy holding on to grudges from the past.  There are ways to take the sting away from these past relationships and disappointments.   In order to manifest the Love you want, you need 100% of your focus on your ideal outcome and 0% of your energy wasted on some past drama and trauma.  Do what you can to neutralize these past events.  It is easier than you think and it is really worth it.

Saboteur Seduction Secret: Rapunzel has worked her fingers to the bone building you a Tower you can depend on.  It was build according to your own list of hurts and emotional losses.  In truth, she is a fearful yet determined vagabond who does not believe you can be happy and safe with a partner.

If you are searching for the magic elixir to transform her to an open-hearted lover your Saboteur Secret is deceptively simple.  You are to go on a comedy feast.  Make it your mission to find the funniest movies you can.  Laughter changes a Rapunzel forever.  By time you have your top 20 comedies, you will be well on your way to the freedom you crave.

Why Rapunzels are Great Love Matches

Once a Rapunzel faces a critical life issue that pushes her for answers, she can make the transformation that  will light her up from inside so her man can find her.  Because she has experienced so much emotional pain, her freedom from that pain makes her irresistible.  When Rapunzel takes responsibility for her own happiness, men feel it and that vibe in a woman over 40 is so unusual it gets noticed.

Free to be her radiant self, the beauty Rapunzel is arm candy for her man.  Her high intelligence and metropolitan world view make her delicious and desirable.  A savvy Rapunzel will keep her focus on what is working in her life and trust her inner guidance to keep her in alignment with her dreams and passions.

XOXO

How about you? 

Last weekend during a True Love Flower Reading here in San Diego, 10 women laughing, crying and hugging as I taught about how to get over sabotage.  Men don't gather like that and yet they crave connection as much as we do.  There is a man out there waiting for you to BELIEVE in yourself, so he can find you.

Curious which True Love Saboteur Style fits for you? Click here for a Who is My Saboteur Assessment. Once you know your sabotage style, you will never look at men the same. You have manifested a single life…against your very core….or was it. Your Saboteur believes you are safest living alone. You are the only person who can change your own mind, you just need the right tools to get there! 

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Have you ever been addicted to a guy? Can't get him out of your mind? Love is sick sometimes, isn't it?

Dr. Berit Brogaard is the leading authority on how chemicals, produced by your brain and turned loose on your unsuspecting body, create impressive drama and trauma when it comes to Love. As a matter of fact,  Dr. Brit and I are writing a book that will open your eyes.

Once you know how to manage your physiology...that is how you find the brain soothing chemicals you need to feel better after hurt or disappointment, you will never look at "falling in love" the same again. The brain prickly chemicals that make breaking up so painful form the "Love Chemical Cocktail", as Dr. Brit calls it, that can consume you if you aren't prepared.

Today, listen in as Dr. Brit tells how hard science is helping people learn to keep their emotional balance and be in love at the same time.  I will be interviewing Brit at 10 am pacific/noon central/1 eastern on December 8.

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/attractyoursoulmatenow/2010/12/08/lovesick-love-uhyeah-but-why-does-love-hurt-so-muc
                                                
Attention Ladies: You Are Invited to the 2nd Annual Holiday Bogus Belief Breakthrough Tele-Party on December 17.  Spend Date Night with Catherine 6 to 8 pm pacific Click Here:

http://www.attractyoursoulmatenow.com/blog/2010/11/for-ladies-only-holiday-bogus-belief-breakthrough-party/

What's a woman to do?  Have you looked all over for the perfect match and....zilch, nada, nothing shows up, should you just give up and get a half dozen cats or so?  NO!

No matter what you have done, who you have dated and how many Law of Attraction books you have read, you have an enemy in the camp.  Well, really she is a FRENEMY.  Let me explain.    You have a potential manifesting partner who is closer than a soul mate will ever be.  You see, every woman who is unsuccessful in love has a True Love Saboteur who is determined to keep you single.

Somehow, your Saboteur has gotten the idea that you are safest living alone.  She is convinced that you would rather be alone than happy.  Ouch.  Doubtful?  How do YOU explain how you have manifested singleness over all these years....and done it so completely?

The True Love Saboteurs each have a sabotage style unique to their personalities.  For the next three posts, I am going to introduce you to each one.  Whether you are a Rapunzel, Snow White or Scarlett O'Hara, you will change your luck in love once you know your own sabotage style.  There is really good news here.  Your Saboteur is the most powerful manifester you are likely to meet.  Think about it, you have manifested singleness in spite of all your efforts to be find your True Love.

Once you seduce your Saboteur and get her to work on your side, what might be possible for you?

Ladies, it is my pleasure to introduce you to True Love Saboteur Scarlett O'Hara:   

• Beautiful but probably wouldn’t describe herself that way

• Talented and over achieving

• Is seen as stronger than she truly feels

• Survivor of many painful episodes and can easily fall into a victim mentality

• Strong control issues.  She wants to be rescued but when things get tough, she runs.

• For Scarlett, running is not avoidance, it is an expression of her power to control her life

• Frequently misunderstood and doesn’t see her reaction as self-sabotage

• Can be seen as intimidating, though she would be shocked at that

• Highly opinionated and often passionate about world issues.

• Loves to talk about religion and politics.

• Not afraid of taking a polarizing position for a cause she loves

• Resilient…if you look resilience up in the dictionary, her picture is there

• Has had a lot of life drama…not that she causes it, but there is a string of really tough challenges.

• Natural leader and has influence over her peers

• Driven to succeed so excruciatingly difficult to take time off

• Collects professional achievements but they frustrate because the people she wishes would cheer for her won’t.

• Attracts mainly emotionally immature or closed off men yet

• Unaware that her Saboteur is terrified of emotional expression she puts relationships behind her quickly and moves on.  “Tomorrow is another day.”

Saboteur Seduction Secret: Annoying people are a real drain for Scarlett and she wants you focused on their incompetence.  If you spend enough time annoyed at others, you have no time and energy to work on your magnetism.

Start today to look at your annoyances differently.  A simple technique practiced on the Toyota factory floor when a problem is discovered is to ask “Why?” 5 times.  So, let’s say that guy cut you off on the freeway.  You get mad at his stupidity.  Ask yourself why it bothers you that he cut you off.  Carry on and ask that question 4 more times.

Follow the train of these “Wise Whys”  and you will pour out a lot of pent up energy.  You will deepen your experience if you do this with pen and paper.  Doing the “Wise Whys” even once a week will make a dramatic difference in your vibe.

Why Scarletts are Great Love Matches

Scarlett is exciting.  Passionate about just about all aspects of life she leads the way to adventure in culture, dining and travel.  When she is sure of herself and doing what she loves, she is a force to be reckoned with.  Charismatic and committed, she can be seen as stubborn but her natural flirtatious style gets her what she wants.

An eye for beauty and her value of spacious surroundings leads her to create a beautiful living space.  Fresh flowers and candles are important for her well being.  The biggest challenge for Scarlett is to firmly decide not to over-compromise.  Her drive and insecurities (which chase at her heels constantly) make her look a bit high maintenance at times.  Because of that, Scarlett can stay with a guy too long.  Scarlett must rely on developing her intuition and mastering her True Love Beliefs so she can ‘feel’ her way to her highest and best path.

Curious how strong your Love Magnet is?  http://TakeTheSoulMateQuiz.com and find out today!